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Dear God, I’m At My Wits’ End, Please Help Me

Dear God, 

I just don’t know how much more I can take.  The yelling, the back talk, the disrespect. What happened to my sweet little boy?  Why is he being like this? What have we done wrong?  Lord, do you even hear me this time? What do I do, how do I make this better. I’m at my wits’ end, please help me. 


The last seven days have been miserable.

I am at my wits’ end with our son.  He is normally loving and gentle, well-behaved (as much as can be expected for a 3 year old) and generally in good spirits.  Not the past seven days.  It’s been nothing but disrespectful talk, complete disregard for instruction and hateful behavior.

My prayer has been simple.  “God, I’m at my wits’ end, please help me!”  I am trying to not yell but it isn’t working. Sometimes I catch myself and I walk away instead of yelling.  Other times I just cry.

And oh how the enemy loves to whisper lies in my head that it’s all my fault.  That I’m a bad mom and a lousy example of a virtuous woman.

And then there’s the rest of life.  Why is it when we are walking through a valley every other minor issue in our lives seems magnified under the stress and strain of the trek through rocky terrain? Could it be because we’ve lost sight of God and we’re focusing on our problems?  Woe is me becomes our anthem as we walk out a stressful stretch of life.

That’s me.  I know it.

Dear God, I'm at my wit's end!

I have cried out to God with my prayer for help and relief but I have taken my focus off of Him while I have a pity party for myself about how bad life has been.

Life is not fun right now. That is no lie.  But during this time I need to remember to focus on Him and see this as a pit stop not the final destination.  I’m a bit derailed.  My family is a bit derailed, but who am I to focus only on my problems instead of on the One who can bring me relief.  I have asked His for help and that’s good but I was reminded that I also need to ask for  more.  I need to be totally dependent on Him for more:

More insight, more grace, more help, more love, more peace, more patience,
more understanding, more gentleness and more self control.  

More insight came when I felt to digging into behavioral effects of antibiotics on children. (You can read more about that here and here.)

More grace came when I realized I need to ask for prayers from my trusted prayer warriors.

More help came when I actually listened to God about how to handle this situation.

More peace came when I asked for it.

More patience came when I understood this wasn’t my son acting out but a side effect of his medication.

More understanding came when I allowed myself to see Wyatt as my cute baby and not a wild defiant child.

More gentleness came when I stopped being a hard-nose disciplinarian and started seeing with compassion.

More self-control came when I hit my knees and began to pray more than ever. My tongue is a trouble maker, this I know.

I have realized, the hard way, that when life gets stressful and when situations arise that are out of the norm I need to immediately go to the Throne and get direction.  Direction doesn’t mean road map but it does mean we can find out what He wants us to do.  Had I done this on day two rather than day six I would have saved myself many tears and unnecessary words.  Wyatt’s behavior might not have changed but I could have been better equipped to handle it.

When you’re at your wits’ end, go to Him.  In fact, we’d all do ourselves good if we’d go to Him before we reach our end, right at that moment when we feel our temper rising, when our patience starts to show signs of wear.

We are His daughters.  He hurts when we hurt. He longs for us to cry out to Him when we reach our wits’ end.

Will you run to Him today?  Do it! Do it before you reach your breaking point.

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  1. Kristy Jensen says:

    Love this post! I have been feeling the same way lately except I have 3 little boys who have been defiant. Only, none of them are on any meds. LOL! They are just pushing their attitudes to see what my limits are. I have been praying a lot but need to even more. Thanks for this post and reminding me that Satan tells many lies including I am a bad mother.

    • Danielle says:

      He does lie to us Kristy! I am starting to recognize it a bit sooner each time I start to beat myself up. We cannot believe his lies. Lies lead to fear and fear leads to cowardly behavior (I just learned this today!). We are free in Him, we are good mothers who have bad days but we always His daughters!


  2. Love your honesty and authenticity! And walking into this day with the reminder that “I AM His daughter!”

  3. What a beautiful reminder of how God wants to be involved with every detail of our lives all day long, every day. Thanks for sharing.

  4. I don’t know what more to do , my business is not working no matter what I do
    I have watched it die over the years, I’m a hair extension Tech have been for 35 years, things have
    slowed down a great deal, there are so many other salon doing them now, so needless to say there is more composition, I would like to take a new road in business but I don’t know what els to do for a career no matter how hard I pary to get a change for the better for my life there is no answer, I have been waiting on god for 12 years change things around for the better.

  5. Dear Lord
    I do not know what to do. I am up to my knock in debt which i cannot repay. I’ve lost my job and am worried as to how to put food on the table for my family.I cannot understand why my son is a “special needs” boy, or why my stepdaughter keeps taking my provision for her well being and education for granted.My dear wife is overburdened with caring for us all.
    I know you have said in your word “Do not worry” , but when the debts are high and the funds are low, the Banks don’t care.
    I do not know a way forward and I humbly beseech you to hear my prayer that all of this shall pass.
    Lord Jesus Christ, Son of the Living God, have mercy on me , a sinner. Am I paying for my past sins? Did you not take that away on the cross? Why then am I in this dark season?
    I know I can do all things in your strength. Help me to do better. Your son by adoption and grace , Mikey +

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  8. Sharon Owens says:

    Amen! I’ve just gotten out of prison and it seems like life is so different now. I don’t find joy or happiness in anything. I even feel that my fiance who took care of me the whole time I was in prison is against me. I don’t understand why I feel so defeated. Please pray for me. For a healing for my mind and body.
    Sincerely, Sharon


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