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Change Your Words, Change Your Life

Change your words, change your life

We don’t have money to go out to eat.

We don’t have money to buy a motorcycle.

We don’t have money for that hospital bill.

I don’t have money for that sweater.


I have said these statements (aloud or to myself) in just the past few days.

It wasn’t until I heard my husband say to my brother “We probably aren’t going to Tennessee next year because we don’t have the money” that it happened.


The Lord, right then, said to me “It’s not money you don’t have, it’s a change in priorities.


I immediately saw how negative my husband’s statement sounded and how negative I have sounded countless times when I talk about our finances to someone else or even to my husband (or even to myself).

I’ve become so accustomed to saying “we don’t have money” that it’s become habit. We have money but we have become more in tune with our budget and what our priorities are. What we spend money on is now in clear focus.

The Lord also reminded me that life and death are in the tongue.  When I say “we don’t have money” I am speaking negatively (death) about our situation.  If I say, “Going out to eat isn’t a priority for us” or “I don’t want to spend my money going out for lunch” I am speaking the truth of the situation.

Budgeting and spending wisely are positive things.  They are not easy things but they are positive and in the long run they are freeing.  I shouldn’t be speaking in a way that makes them seem negative.

What a better example I am to everyone around me, family, friends or coworkers when I voice my choice on my spending in a positive way.

A Negative Perception of a Positive Situation

I’m not claiming some new age positive aura kinda thing. I’m talking about expressing our inward convictions or heart changes in a positive way.  Reflecting the true nature of our Lord.  After all, all things work together for good to those called according to His purpose so we should be speaking positively about life no matter if we are in the valley or adjusting our financial perspective.

“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”

~ Proverbs 18:21

A non-believer may say to themselves “Well she’s not living any kind of victorious life; she never has money for anything. What blessed life is she talking about” Now granted, money doesn’t equal victorious living but to a non-believer it might.

Secondly, as I mentioned before I’m not speaking victoriously about my situation.  I am blessed with funds to pay my bills and feed my family but I choose not to spend money on a sweater because it’s not a necessity.

My brother is in his early 20’s and I’m trying to get him to understand budgeting.  I pray that the mini conversation about vacation doesn’t make him think budgeting is a waste and too constrictive.

Not What You Say, but How You Say It

My husband’s statement about our annual vacation would have been better stated as “We probably aren’t going to Tennessee next year since we’re working on paying off debt.  We’re thinking of doing a few smaller local camping trips that will cost less.”

Doesn’t that sound hopeful, positive and goal oriented?

“I packed lunch today, I’m saving my lunch money for a sweater I have my eye on.”

This could spark a conversation with a co-worker who is desperate to get out of debt and doesn’t have a clue how to begin.

There are far too many people in the world who really do not have money for basic necessities. I don’t need to water down their hardships by carelessly speaking words that really aren’t true.

Do you find yourself speaking a negative version of a positive situation?

Until Next Time,

Be Blessed


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  1. I love this perspective! Words are great impacters. Using the positive choices of words instead of the negatives, changes the whole picture. I really like this. Lately, without realizing it, I’ve been viewing my budget as not-so-fun, instead of seeing it as a useful tool that helps me out. Thanks for the encouraging words!

  2. This is fantastic, Danielle! I think everyone can relate to the “we don’t have enough money” kind of talk. I think I’ll try to strike that sentence from my use and really work to rephrase the way I view things. Thanks!

  3. What a refreshing perspective. I definitely needed to read this as we are beginning to really get serious about budgeting and paying off debt. We are beyond blessed, and I need to reframe my mind! Thank you so much for sharing your experience! 🙂

  4. Great perspective on a situation that could easily bring you (and whoever you are talking to) down! Thanks for sharing with #fellowshipfridays 🙂

  5. I have recently been convicted on much of the same things. Thank you so much for sharing!! Stopping in from Fellowship Fridays.

  6. Danielle, I loved reading this! Thank you so much for pointing out that one simple change in perspective can make a huge difference. When my husband was unemployed I felt the ‘we don’t have money’ thing all the time. It was true that we had little money and sometimes wondered if we would be able to buy food, but God always provided what we needed. Even if ‘we’ didn’t have the money, he found a way to provide through family offering food to us or other simple things that we saved money on so we could use that extra for things we needed. Now that money is less of an issue, I need to check my motives for purchases more often, especially since we still have a lot of debt to pay off.

    • Sometimes He wants us to change our perspective so we can see things from His angle. You’re absolutely right, if if the checkbook is negative we serve a God who has more than we could ever hope for and He will provide. So glad you’re out of that season and working to pay off debt. That can be a long road but so well worth it in the end.


  7. Wow, I loved this. I’ve been convicted of being negative a lot lately, and I absolutely agree–our words are powerful. Love how you talk about your priorities too. It’s true that we’ll spend money (and time) on some things and not others–we have to–and those decisions require clear priorities. Thanks for the reminder. I like your blog and think I’ll follow you. 🙂

    • Thanks Jane! I’d love for you to follow me. If He’s convicting you then He’s telling you it’s time to work on that. I pray He gives you revelation to change your words to things that are worthy.

  8. Yes! This is beautifully said and full of truth. Thanks from another mommy who is working on priorities. 🙂

    • Thank you Sarah. It’s good when God reveals to us the things we need to work on. Then, with His help we can change.


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