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Sexual Sin – Deeper Than Skin

Sexual sin deeper than skin

Sexual Sin.

What’s that, and why does God talk so much about it? What are the effects of sexual sin?

You find some really crazy verses in the Bible about sexual sin! What in the world is God so worked up about? If He made our bodies and He made sex, then why does He give us rules about it?

Didn’t He make it for our pleasure?

Didn’t He say we are to love one another?

That is the position of a lot of people. It seems that throughout the last century and into this one, the subject of sex has been talked about in every way possible. You may have heard of the “Roaring 20s”, a time in our history that boasted of the rebellion of the American young woman! And you thought that was the 1960’s, right? Well, here is the definition from for the word ‘flapper’ which originated in the 1920’s.  A young woman, especially one who, during the 1920’s, behaved and addressed in a boldly unconventional manner.  A “flapper” was a young woman who bucked up against the norms and the moral ideals of the time concerning women’s behavior, dress, speech etc.

People were in a more mobile society at this point than they ever were before. It was the dawn of the amusement park and other places that offered the population an experience in pleasure they had not had in times past, pleasure, fun, and amusement. Along comes the telephone and now folks can get together and relate in a totally different way. Also, the telephone was another way for people to hold private conversations as well. It was a new era! And guess what the hushed topic of conversation often was? Yes, you guessed it, sex!

Move along to the 1960’s and we see that the “women’s movement” and the cry for “sexual revolution” became household lingo and along with those phrases came behavior. So, as we continued moving forward as a nation, losing the inhibitions that kept at least some of the population in check, sexually, others were going forth hearing the much mentioned phrase in their heads, “if it feels good, do it.”  Now, its 2015, with pornography running rampant throughout the internet!  We also find books that boast of sexual lust and rough sex lying alongside the Bible on the coffee table.

what you don't know about sexual sins

So, introduce God and the scripture into this crazy mix. Where do you place Him in a world that is running a muck with immoral sexual behavior being touted as “freedom?” Here in we find a real problem and dare I say one that is being swept under the rug more and more often.

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price.So glorify God in your body.
~ 1 Corinthians 6:18-20

What does He mean when Paul advises us in 1 Corinthians 6:18-20? He talks about the two becoming one flesh? He also tells us to flee from sexual immorality because this is a sin against your own body. This would include pornography, homosexuality, bestiality and the child sex trade etc. He says that we are to honor God with our bodies. What does this mean?

Connected for Life

Since we have been bought with a price, that, being, Jesus’ sacrifice of his own life, this means that those who have taken Jesus as savior have been connected to Him for eternity.  If we are connected to Him we should not be connected to another person outside of the bonds of the relationship as God has described it, i.e., marriage. If we connect with another person outside of marriage, then we have also stopped honoring God with our behavior through disobedience. So, why is he so adamant about that? What is the harm?

When we are joined to another person sexually outside of the confines of the scripture, we are going away from God and risk moving into a place that is dangerous. How? When there is sexual contact, there is exchange of DNA. That is our body’s own code. We are to only connect and “be one with” our marriage partner. When we move outside of that, we may risk sickness as well as contract any evil spiritual bondage the other person walks with. By contract, I mean that because we have walked away from the boundaries that God has set for us, we move into a place of disobedience and we are subject to the ramifications. His boundaries are set for our safety. He loves us that much. He does not want us to be given to “lusts of the flesh” because they will take us away from the place in which obedience secures us.

When we have sexual contact with someone outside the bonds of our own marriage, there is a mixture of DNA. We may not realize that those new ideas or opinions that we now have are not our own. When did we even care or even think about some of the things we now do? When did we start to notice that twinge in our joints or that we now have migraines when we never did before? These are just some examples of mixing spiritually with someone outside of the boundaries of the word of God. Just like the safety that is attached to a firearm for protection, we can disengage that safety that keeps us secure and free of harm spiritually when we engage in disobedient behavior, sexual or any other kind as well. God leaves that choice up to us; we were given free will by Him in order to make these choices.

Breaking Free

The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise.
~ Psalm 51:17

So, then what do we do? Once this has been discovered, (and the enemy of our soul works really hard to keep this information covered up) how do we deal with it? God has made a way out! He keeps it really simple too. We can go to the cross with a contrite heart, as we see in Psalm 51:17.

This is the story about David and his great sin. He brought his broken and contrite heart to God, and repented before Him because of his sin. When we are truly broken over our sin, it is then that the God of all forgiveness immediately forgives us. We will also want to renounce this behavior and not allow ourselves to move into lusts that can take us away into sexual sin again. God is ready and willing to help us do that because that temptation will surely come once more. But we can be strong in Him and the power of His might. Not our own, because our own flesh will surely fail.

Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might.
~ Ephesians 6:10.

Once we come to God with repentance and renouncement we are able to break any soul ties with the other person and declare that their DNA is given back to them and we can take back ours as well, mentally, physically and spiritually.

Freedom from the shadow of shame that sexual sin brings and that keeps us hunched over in darkness is most refreshing!freedom from the shadow of shame

There is nothing like walking in the newness of forgiveness and being made clean once more.

Jesus has made the way for us to do this. He is the bridge that we may walk upon that enables us to reach the throne room of God. His word says that we may come boldly to His throne for help and grace in our time of need. That is our choice and it is available to us continually all the time, every day! We GET to stand up and go into the presence of the Lord in order to receive that help and grace that the verse in Hebrews 4:16 tells us about.

God’s plan is for us to walk in freedom within the safety of his boundaries. Just as we would have our own children learn to not run into the street or to touch the stove, He, as well wants us to remain safe and whole and living in truth and with the knowledge of His love.

If you have ventured off the path that God provides for you, it is but with a simple prayer that He will restore that which was lost. Purity can once again be regained which enables us to walk with our backs straight and our heads held high, not in pride but with the knowledge that we are fathered by a God that loves us that much!

About Linda

Linda is a certified Pastoral Counselor through Emerge Counseling Services/Ministries in Akron Ohio. She is as a pastoral counselor at Freedom Christian Counseling Services housed at Freedom Valley Church and has an Associate’s Degree in Human Services. She provides individual pastoral counseling at her home church, Open Arms Christian Fellowship as well as hosting couples counseling, generational deliverance, and any other specific biblically based counseling as needed. 

Linda and her husband Robert live near Gettysburg. She is Grandma to three much loved grandchildren and is active in her church where she leads a weekly bible study. For more teachings, visit her on YouTube and like Facebook page. You may reach her at 717-638-870. 

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