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3 Essentials To Preparing To Be A SAHM

preparing to be a stay at home mom

Preparing to be a stay at home mom may sound strange. After all, many people feel it is the only way a woman should live and it should be done no matter the cost.

I’m of a slightly different persuasion.

I do believe it is an optimum choice for the health of a family however since many of us grew up in a culture that didn’t teach us this we found out we really wanted to or need to stay home a bit later in life.  I was 30 when I realized I really wanted children and wanted to stay home.

I wasn’t even pregnant but I knew I wanted to be at home. I began preparing to be a stay at home mom long before the first pregnancy test was positive. Then, I still worked for 2 1/2 years after our son was born.

If you’re considering leaving the work-force to be at home here are three things I feel are essential for you and your husband to do

Pray & Wait to be Released

Praying is so critical in any area of life but so much so as you being to realize that working is no longer something you desire to do.  I prayed for years to find a way out of working. First, I had to pray that my husband’s hear toward me working would change and then I prayed for God to show me a way out.

As I mentioned earlier, I worked for 2 1/2 years after our son was born before I left my full time job.  It was not easy to wait.  Several times the Lord told me it was not time.  If my flesh had anything to do with it I’d have walked out but He kept telling me to wait.

What does this release look like?  For me it was getting laid off.  For you it will probably be different.

Prepare Your Finances

We began getting our finances in line with the Lord’s desires in January 2011.  We had over $25,000 in consumer debt and we were heading down a bad road. We got a financial coach through Money 4 Life and started using the Mvelopes budgeting system.  We made hard decisions and committed to not using credit cards.  Today, we sit with just over $5,000 in consumer debt and we’re prepared to be free of that by the end of the year.

If you’re in debt remember that it did not appear over night and it won’t go away over night.  Seek out what the Lord wants you to do and then do it.  Yes, He could miraculously relieve you of your debts but He could also show you a way to walk through the process of getting out of debt.  In my opinion this makes you all the more appreciative of His grace and mercy and you leave with wisdom that you didn’t have before.  Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego had to go through the fire but in the end they didn’t even smell like smoke! God can do that for you too!!

Decide on Earning Extra Income

Just because you are going to stay home doesn’t mean you can’t earn any money. You may be able to use your God-given gifts to bless others and earn some income.  Teaching piano lessons, selling recycled wine bottles, or homemade hats can be a great way to express yourself and contribute a little to the finances.  I use any profit from my lip balm to keep this site running and put toward extra debt payments.

 Okay veterans, what did you do as you prepared to leave the work force and become a stay at home mom?

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  1. Rebecca says:

    Going to be following these comments. I was just yesterday told that my job is no longer needed, but we cannot afford for me to be home, stinky debt. We have been working for almost a year to get rid of debt (we did Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University), but we aren’t close yet. So, I’m going to be watching these comments for inspiration.

  2. When we got married, we agreed that God would decide when littles come along, and it was my husband’s desire from the beginning (mine, too) for me to stay at home. Since that’s the vision we had, we knew we had to make some hard decisions to prep for it. Both of us being in college at the time, I worked part time while taking full time classes. My scholarship paid for our housing the first 9 months of marriage. I also had an internship my last semester (during which I was pregnant with our son), where I basically worked 40 hrs a week for free. We had an internship fund set aside for that semester so the expenses never came out of my husband’s paycheck. After I graduated, our son was born and I’ve been at home since. My husband is finishing an aviation degree with no more loans and working full time as a pizza delivery driver. We know that if we take debt now, it will make it harder for me to stay home in the future.

    So I would say along the “prepare your finances” line to try to have an emergency fund ready. There’s comfort in having a buffer so that if an emergency comes up, Mom doesn’t end up back in the workforce. Also, prepare your heart. At-home mommas definitely don’t have it easy – it requires a different set of skills than we realize, and our heart attitude is a big one. I wish I had realized how much I needed to stay in tune with God at the beginning so it would’ve been a bigger priority for me.

  3. Riversana says:

    I think it’s wonderful that you are able to stay at home with your handsome son! The photo of the two of you on the right side of this page is adorable. Would you please share where you got his hat?? Either pattern or link! lol


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