Restoring the Lost Petal

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What Are Your Children Learning From You

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“We’ll be line forever right mommy?” He said tugging on his mom’s pant leg. He was probably four, maybe five years old.

I chuckled to myself as she shushed him and said “No, not too long.”

This little lesson comes courtesy of a very long checkout line at Aldi.

A Lesson Demonstrated

Through my witness of this seemingly insignificant exchange between mother and child, the Lord reminded me how much my words and actions impact my son’s view of this word and how he’ll relate to it.

The idea that we influence our children isn’t new; I’m sure you’ve heard it before.

Our children will emulate what they see and hear from the adults in their lives, especially their parents.

When the guy in the car ahead of me is doing 30 in a 45 and I say “Come on buddy, gas pedal is on the right” in a condescending manner, is that something I want my son to say some day?  Sure, me he might say it one day but do I want it to be because he got the example from me?

Positive Influence

I had another example of this valuable lesson a few days later in my kitchen.

As I do every few days I was running the vacuum, sweeper as we call it around here.  Little man was playing with the attachments and I could not figure out what he was doing with them.

I watched him a bit more closely and realized that he was imitating me when I run the sweeper by using the attachment to “clean” around the edges and beneath the counters.  He proceeded to the living room where he did the same thing under the television.

At eighteen months he saw what I did and was doing the same. It is amazing and honoring. And truthfully a bit scary. The thought that seemingly insignificant tasks are examples for him to follow is daunting.  I am not Mom of the Year. If left to myself I’m a negative, pessimistic, judgmental, grumpy and a bit on the selfish side.  I don’t want my son to be like that.

There is Hope

If I focus daily on the Lord, lean on Him for strength and look to Him as my example there is hope that I can be a better example for my son.

“Trust the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding” ~ Proverbs 3:5

“You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires, to be made new in the attitude of your minds, and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. “ ~ Ephesians 4:22-24

Daily I must renew my mind and spend time with the Lord.

I must also keep godly company. I must read godly books, magazines and blogs; things that are encouraging to me as a mother. Ultimately I must take my example from the life of Jesus. I must be as a little child with Jesus; watching Him and learning from Him.

As He is my example and I exude more of Christ in my life, I will supernaturally become a better example to my son and those around me.

Do your children imitate you or your spouse? If so how?




Restoring the Lost Petal

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  1. Once again, you’ve written a post that hits home! We just had a similar (ahem) conversation in our house about what behaviors M3 is going to grow up thinking are acceptable or not. I know full well that if he sees Mommy or Daddy doing it, then he’s going to do it too!

    • Danielle says:

      Thanks Vicki! I’m glad to hear this is on your heart. It is such an eye opener when you realize how you do and say and handle things will be the foundation for your child’s skills in doing,saying and handling.


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