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misconceptions of mommy bloggers

Today in the Misconceptions Series we’re looking at the misconceptions of  mommy bloggers.   For you at the other end of this post it can be easy to see us mom bloggers as perfect, living specimens of the proverbs 31 woman.  This however, is not reality.  What you read below, is more so the case for many of us.  Join me as Debra from Sweet Kisses and Dirty Dishes shares a bit on the real life of a mommy blogger.  

 

Hi my name is Debra, and I am not a mommy blogger.

Sure, I have a blog called Sweet Kisses and Dirty Dishes. Yes, many meals I make get photographed for my blog or an e-book. I talk about little moments on my facebook page, and spend a night worrying over the post talking about that time I yelled at my kids when they were begging for food at nearly 10 in the morning and had not eaten.

But, mommy blogger? Nah.

You see, a mommy blogger is far more organized then I am. She never stays up until 3 in the morning getting a post finished. She NEVER leaves her blog rather untouched for weeks on end while dealing with pre-term contractions, stress from a few financial surprises, getting an e-book finished, and while dealing with insomnia, morning sickness, and heartburn. She can get out posts even in the midst of trials.

A mommy blogger writes down recipes and then never unpublishes them a few years later when her standards have changed. She can make recipes at the drop of the hat. She definitely never takes the time to decorate, stage, and photograph a recipe only to try it and decide it down right nasty!

Even if she does chances are she did not take that photograph on top of a chest freezer, in a toy room, while balancing a lamp stand with her foot close to the food.

If she waddles her massive pregnant belly into the kitchen to make a late breakfast of a “super simple banana pudding” she does not forget that she served it to a toddler and go into the other room for a few minutes.

 

When she writes about doing laundry on Monday, it is because that is what she always does. When she writes about what she has learned about keeping her kitchen functional it is because her kitchen is always ready to have that 3 course meal, she always makes, made.

If she is a real food blogger she never serves oatmeal for lunch, and even if she did she served a vegetable with it for nutrition not because she is behind in getting recipes tested for a book that is supposed to release in just over a week. Under no circumstances, even not being able to look at raw meat, does she send her husband to the store to pick up junky food for dinner.

She never is sitting writing a post in the midst of laundry that needs to be done when her husband brings home a surprise guest for dinner. But, if that were to happen she would know what she was making for dinner because she loves menu planning. She would not serve scrambled eggs– her husband made.

For these reasons I feel like an impostor when I say I am a mommy blogger. I feel awkward in my media networks. My blog is small, sometimes it is left unattended, sometimes I spend hours writing a post that should take 20 minutes because writing is very hard for me. Sometimes I say stupid things and then have to correct it.

But, I have been getting to know other bloggers through different sources. I learn that sometimes other bloggers wait until last minute to get blogposts done. Other bloggers can’t seem to get a post out in the midst of a particularly crazy time. Other bloggers make a great cake but forgot to get the baking time down.

I have also been learning that every blogger is different. Some blog as a hobby. Some blog as a ministry. Some blog as a source of income. Some consider themselves professional bloggers, some hobbyists. For me my blog is rarely a source of income, I would consider it far more of a ministry and hobby then a “job”. That might mean I feel like I need to leave it at times to focus on other stuff.

I have been learning that sometimes we can talk about stuff we have learned without it being second nature.

You see, mommy bloggers are people. Regular people. We cook, we clean, we take care of our kids. We make mistakes in all the above, and still we write about them.

Not because we our perfect, or even that we want to be perceived that way, but because we are often teachers. We want to help other moms. Through both our successes and through hard learned lessons. Rarely is that not the case– whether our blog reaches a hundred people a day or a hundred thousand.

Debra is first and foremost a daughter of the King of kings. She and her husband live in central MO where they raise a preschool boy, toddler girl, and have one on the way. Debra is a full time homemaker whose ministry begins with her family. She spends her days being a helpmeet to her husband, loving on, teaching and tickling her two kiddos, cooking healthy food, keeping home, crafting, and then chronicling the ensuing excitement on her blog Sweet Kisses and Dirty Dishes.

So tell me? Do you have misconceptions of mommy bloggers?

 

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Comments

  1. Hey Debra. A blogger in another network I am in just shared this on facebook and said “ROFL”.

    I think you made her day :).

  2. This is fantastic and such a fun blessing! I am definitely “not a blogger” I have taken pictures of the kitchen in the aftermath of recipe testing just for proof and plan to share them soon! 🙂 My tutorials are all called- Giving You Hope- because if I can do it- you can do it! 🙂 Thank you for sharing your cute toddler and precious family!

    • Danielle says:

      Debra did a fantastic post didn’t she? I’m totally an impostor blogger myself!

      Thanks for stopping by.

  3. I just about died when I saw that photo collage of the banana pudding! Oh, children!!!

    Thanks for clearing up some misconceptions because I can’t help but feel so many of these mommy bloggers are just perfect! I guess it makes sense that we’re only going to show what is great about ourselves when we have the choice. Thanks for allowing a little laughter and sharing this wonderful post. 🙂

    • Danielle says:

      Debra did a wonderful job didn’t she!? It can be very easy to get disillusioned when you read blogs but rest assured, no matter which blogger it is and no matter what they say to the contrary not one of us is perfect.

  4. Love this! And it’s so true! Thanks for sharing on Titus 2 Tuesday. This so needs to be shared!

  5. I LOVE this! I found it on titus2 tuesday, and I can totally relate. I’ve actually had a few friends who read my blog tell me they are intimidated by me when they read my blog. I’m all like, “yeah, but we got drive through last night, and my laundry room stinks. I don’t always follow through on what I say.” I’m tempted to write my own version of this, for my readers, I hope you don’t mind. I’m going to pin this. Oh, and I literally laughed out loud at your chocolate covered toddler – because I totally relate!

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