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The Alarming Truth About Sex Ed In Public Schools

Public school parents are being duped.

They are being mislead by buzz words that sound responsible and feel as though they’ll produce results most parents want.

Sadly, the exact opposite is true.

In a poll conducted by Pulse Opinion Research (Oct 2012) a majority of parents on both sides of political fence, across a range of races want the same thing for their children.

But in many school districts they are getting the exact opposite.

Parents want sex education that identifies the risk of sexual activity and defines ways to avoid those risks.

What are they getting?

How to put on a condom. How to have “safe sex.” And even “field trips” to local clinics to find out their privacy policy.  (In case you can’t read between those lines that’s a way to find out if you can get birth control without parental consent.)

The truth about sex education in school

Feel Good Words

Risk Reduction. 

Comprehensive.

Reassuring words parents feel good about hearing. These buzz words sounds as though the sexual education taking place in their child’s school is in line with what most parents want: education that exposes the risks of sexual activity and the benefits of delay.

What Your Kids Are Getting

Sexual Risk Reduction (SRR) or Comprehensive Sex Education works from the basic idea that kids are going to have sex so let’s help them reduce the risk. Give them condoms, tell them about their choices when they get pregnant, help them decide which partner is best for them (male, female, whatever). This model assumes there will be a sexual partner so one must communicate effectively with that partner in an effort to reduce the risk of sexually transmitted diseases or unwanted pregnancy. The general propose of SRR education is this:

  • Increased condom use
  • Increased contraceptive use
  • Decrease the number of sexual partners
  • Reduce frequency of sex
  • Reduce teen pregnancy
  • Reduce cases of STIs
  • Reduce sexually risky behavior
  • Reduce sexual activity

SRR focuses mainly on the physical side of sexual activity and how one can have sex with less risk.

Have sex with less risk. Assuming they are going to do it. These types of programs may touch on avoiding sexual contact but they are heavy on the philosophy that teens and tweens will have sex so let’s protect them.

I can’t help but think since teens are heavily influenced by the attitudes and beliefs of the adults in their lives if we assume they will have sex are we setting them up to have sex? They may not say it but are they silently reasoning, “She thinks I will so I might a well…..”

These programs, whether intentional or not, normalize teen sex. When teens think “everyone is doing it,” even if that isn’t the case, they are more likely to engage in risky behavior. This is human nature and works for healthy and unhealthy choices.

What You Want Them To Have

Parents want their children to wait as long as possible before engaging in sexual activity. We want them to understand the risks of having sexual contact, but we also want them to know how to avoid the pressure and deal with the natural feels all teens and tweens face.

Sexual Risk Avoidance Education (SRA) is what you really want.  This model of sexual education teaches the value of the individual and the benefits of delaying sexual contact. In addition to the physical aspects of sexual contact, SRA also teaches the emotional, social, economical (and can include spiritual) aspects of sexual activity at an early age.

Though sometimes referred to this way, SRA is not abstinence only. Students in these programs will learn how to:

  • Develop healthy relationships
  • Avoid or get out of dangerous or unhealthy relationships
  • Develop sound decision-making skills
  • Set future goals
  • Understand sexually transmitted diseases and how to avoid them
  • Evaluate true effectiveness of contraceptive use
  • Avoid inappropriate sexual advances
  • And learn why saving sexual contact for marriage is optimal.

This type of program takes a holistic approach rather than focusing only on sexual activity.

The avoidance model believes teens can avoid sexual activity while the reduction model suggests teens can’t or won’t avoid sexual contact. 

What Can You Do

First, you can contact your district and inquire about the sexual education curriculum being used. Do not be belligerent or rude. Ask about it, ask to see it. It is your child and you do have a right to  know what they will be taught.

Next, stay up to date with the current legislation on sexual education by stopping by the National Abstinence Education Association. I have met a few a few passionate and well-educated women from NAEA when I studied and tested for the Sexual Risk Avoidance Specialist certification. They are top notch and focused on quality, researched-based sex education.

You may also want to check your local pregnancy centers and see if they do any work in area districts. Our pregnancy center supports a staff of SRAS certified teachers who go into the public schools to teach sexual risk avoidance.  You could donate your time, money or even become an SRAS if you so desired in order to help.

Not Just A Public School Problem

This is not just a problem for public school parents. As members of The Church (not the building), we should be speaking up for what is right. No, they cannot say that sex before marriage is a biblical sin in public school but they do not have to. Truth is truth even without the Christian language.

We must be the church. Some parents desperately want to homeschool but it isn’t possible. Single parents, dual income homes or  parents who want to utilize the public school system need to know what is being taught and need to understand what their children are hearing in the classroom. We can support them by supporting truthful sexual education models in the public school.

 

Did you know there were types of sexual education models? Do you know what’s being taught to your children?

 

 

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