Restoring the Lost Petal

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Am I The Only One Thinking About Sex?

The Lord is doing amazing things.

He told me in mid-January 2014 that doors would open and I would be reaching women. They are, and I am.  I never thought I’d be stepping into a role of teaching, training and disciplining women but He is turning my messy life into a message – His message, which is one of restoration and healing.

What’s my mess?  It’s was the mess of past I created for myself by giving away my sexual purity.  It seems that now, in this day, God has His finger on sex and the Christian woman.  Sadly, it’s a taboo topic but one that needs addressed.  Purity is a dirty word and submission is okay but only if it comes in the form of erotica novels.

God has connected me with two amazing women who He has also called to talk about sex and others in my life are beginning to talk about it too.

Every Woman’s Battle was one of the first books that helped me realize I had issues with my past.  Shannon Ethridge talked so openly and honestly in her book and it amazed me.  Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine 8 years later I’d be talking to her on the phone discussing my book and hearing about B.L.A.S.T. Mentoring, her mentorship program.  Now, I’m honored to have been selected to be part of the Spring 2014 B.L.A.S.T. program.





my good friend Linda made a connection for me with a local woman whose heart is to see youth grab hold of the truth that waiting for marriage is the best choice emotionally, spiritually and physically.  Cindy Janczyk’s ministry Hope for Purity is such a beautiful compliment to the ministry I’m creating and her book Sex…Does Practice Make Perfect? is a must-read for those wondering why they should bother to wait and why practicing sex isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.

 ….And Then, Along Came 50 Shades of Grey

I never gave the book a passing thought once I heard the context of the book.  “Mommy porn,” as it was called, really wasn’t up my alley.

Then I heard of a new book.   A book that has begun to change the way I see books like 50 Shades of Grey.  It’s looks deep into a woman’s being and says,  yes we do have sexual desires, longing and even sexual frustrations.  But in Pulling Back the Shades Dannah Gresh and Juli Slattery expose the lie that erotica tries to hide so well within its pages.

This book is a must read.  Even if you have never picked up 50 Shades or any other erotica you probably know someone who has.  It is water cooler convo in almost every office and to my surprise, even around the collection plate, which is sad.

And Finally, A Better Way to Date

God has been wrecking my thinking in many areas and He hasn’t left out dating.  Dating and the Christian teen is starting to sound like an oxymoron.  Is courting a better way?  Should teens date the way we date in the modern world? These are things the Lord is showing me first hand through the life of a dear friend and her daughter.  I am blessed to be part of their journey and I’m learning so much through watching them find a better way.

What This Means to You

Why does the Lord have his finger on sex and the Christian woman?  Because He wants us healed and restored.  The only way we find our freedom is when we expose every part of our lives to His light.  Darkness cannot hide in Light and shame, guilt, condemnation and judgement about the sexual struggles of Christian women need to go in Jesus’ name!

Let His light expose the darkness of your past and find healing.

If you’re struggling with sexual issues I want you know you’ll be hearing more about this from me.  I want you to find this little corner of the internet as a safe place with no judgement, were you can be honest.  If you aren’t struggling, I want you learn and examine what I’ll be writing about because somewhere in your circle of friends, no matter how conservative you are, someone is secretly struggling with this and needs an understanding ear.  If you’ve pledged to remain pure and haven’t strayed, you can continue to build your foundation with more truth and knowledge so you’re not easily swayed.


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  1. Hi, I would like more info on the dating for teens. I think they should wait till they are ready to marry, ie: job, able to provide for a wife and family. My sons have a different look on it and want to date in their teens and not wait. We r struggling with this. Thanks

  2. Thank you for having the courage to approach this important topic. You will minister to many women. May God bless your efforts.

    • Danielle says:

      Thanks Kinsey. It is an important message. I really do want to reach as many women as I can. As daughters of the Most High, we should not live with shame but should live restored!


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