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The Fret Files: Worry is Over Used & Unnecessary


If worry is part of your life you are not living the life God intended you to live.

I lived a long time worrying about everything and speaking worry over things not knowing what I was doing. Finally I am learning to live with less worry and I’m starting to understand the dynamics of worry.

An Overused Word

The word worry is overused.  We say “worry” like it means nothing when in reality every word we say has power.

“I’m worried about the weather for tomorrow’s game.”

“I’m worried I don’t have enough flour for that recipe.”

“I’m worried about getting that paper in by the due date.”

“I’m worried that he won’t call for a second date.”

According to one of the definitions of worry is this:

“to torment oneself with or suffer from disturbing thoughts; fret.”

Are you tormenting yourself over things you can’t control?

Are you speaking forth worry by carelessly using the word in a haphazard way?

Watch your words – they have the power of life and death.  

Worry is Not Responsible

It is so easy to slip into worry.  Worry seems natural and to some of us, the responsible thing to do.

For a long time I believed if I was a responsible person I had to worry about things: my husband, money, my job, what people thought of me, what would happen to me if my husband died or left me.

I used to be in the mindset that it was my job to worry.  If I didn’t worry than I was somehow being irresponsible.  Even now, as a mom I feel little jabs of judgment because I don’t “worry” about Wyatt enough.

I still sometimes fight the urge to take on the job of worrying about a project, situation or issue in my life.

But if we read scripture, we see clearly in Matthew that worry is not our responsibility.

Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?  And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin.  Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. ~ Matthew 6:24-35

Worry Changes Nothing and it Cripples Us

The lie we never see is believing that worry will in help us.  But the truth is worry is not going to stop something bad from happening nor is it going to bring about any solution.  We can chew our nails down to the quick worrying about our finances but worry won’t bring any solutions.

Worry has the opposite affect that we want it to have.  The only thing worry can accomplish is crippling us from taking a step of faith to believe in or do that which God is calling us to. 

Do you over use the word worry?

Listen to yourself and others. Observe how often the word worry is used carelessly.  Don’t comment to them, or beat yourself us – just listen.


In part two we’ll take a look at when real worry comes on us and who we can stop the worrying.


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