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Keepin’ It Real: Life as a Stay at Home Mom

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I became a stay at home mom (SAHM) just over a month ago. My lay off was God’s perfect timing and an answer to prayer. The three of us have had to make some adjustments to this new life.  Brad and Wyatt had a routine on his four days off and I have interrupted it.  Wyatt was used to a certain way of things happening when his Grandma was there and I do things differently.

Over all I love being at home.  It is the calling on my life during this season. I know this from what the Lord has shown me and spoken to me. 

Before I started writing a blog I found it easy to get disillusioned about the “perfect women” on the other side of the page I was reading.  Now, as a blogger I try to be as real and honest as I can in my writing. So here’s some real about my time as a stay at home mom:

I love keeping my camper clean and semi-organized (as organized as you can keep a camper with a toddler).

Some days I hate picking up my husband’s “they aren’t dirty, I’ll wear them again” pants that have laid on the floor for 4 days waiting to be worn.  They only action they saw since he laid them down was when the dog made a bed out of them.

I love helping Wyatt discover new things and watching him learn his numbers and letters.

Some days I hate repeating over and over again “Do not go outside unless you ask first!” or “No, you cannot brush your teeth again.”

I love when Brad comes home from work, it means dinner and our nightly four-wheeler ride with Wyatt.

I get tired of the ho-hum response I get when he walks in the door; same boring peck on the cheek for the last 10 years.

I love getting up at 5 o’clock, having time with the Lord and watching the sun rise out the window.

Some mornings I wish Wyatt wasn’t like his mother.  His 6 o’clock waking means I get little to nothing done during the time when I am the most refreshed and full of energy.  It also means I cannot sleep in until 6 if I want quite time and time to check email and possibly write.

I love cuddling with Wyatt and Brad at night in bed. 

Some nights I wish I had a bed all to myself so I could actually SLEEP.

I love organizing, writing lists and planning my days.

My well-planned day goes to pot when my spur of the moment husband gets up at 9 and announces that we’re going away at 9:30.

Why would I tell you these things?

It’s not to make you feel like you’re off the hook.  It’s not to make you feel better about yourself if you get angry with your kids or frustrated with your husband.

It’s to let you know that you aren’t alone.

You don’t have to be perfect to be a good homemaker and stay at home mom.  God did not choose us to be homemakers because of our ability to be patient, keep a perfect home and go to bed every night with a smile on our face. He chose us because in our weakness, struggles and failures He can be glorified.  When we turn to Him before our girlfriends (and before the chocolate) He can make us strong and raise our heads.

I count myself blessed with the life and family I have.  The the socks and the kicks in the middle of the night get to me.  I wish we had a blissful, singing-in-the-rain kind of marriage but I know I married the man God chose for me.  This is real life as a stay at home mom.  What we do we do for the glory of God and the good of our families but we are still human.

Now it’s your turn. What do you love about being a stay at home mom? What sometimes gets on your nerves?

Until Next Time,

Be Blessed



A Mama’s Story          Mercy Ink

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  1. We are on the same wavelength today. 🙂 Sometimes being honest means admitting things we don’t like about ourselves, but I think that others need to be reminded that we are all human. 🙂 *hug*

  2. I got laid off 9 months ago and it’s one of the best things that has happened to me. I’m working from home, though, while hanging out with my toddler…which is fabulous and challenging all at once.

    • Danielle says:

      It’s it amazing how something that to many is scary and stressful can be wonderfully refreshing to others. (No disrespect if it’s scary or stressful, had I been laid off 5 years ago it would have definitely been stressful!)

  3. Words from the heart to bless others – beautiful and heartfelt

  4. I love that I’m here for all the “firsts”. And since I’m also homeschooling, I love the random, unplanned learning moments. The flip side? My boys never ask their dad anything. I have to tell them, go ask daddy! Its really easy to get resentful over certain things (no privacy, no lunch breaks, no sick days, etc.) Its nice to know I’m not the only one really looking forward to my husband getting home at night!

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