Restoring the Lost Petal

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*Your Messy Life is Not an Excuse

The other night I met a precious 20-something woman.  She has a relationship with God, two adorable little girls, a handsome husband, a good church family, and …………. a past.

Your messy life is no excuse, it's an example - go share it!

She shared her story with some 200 women at a ladies event I attended.

It went something like this:

Sexually abused
Addicted to drugs

Happily ever after……Oh wait, that isn’t part of life is it?

After all this, their oldest daughter is born with developmental issues that leave her speechless and with motor skill issues.  Her husband recently had a bone marrow transplant, and their youngest daughter has the same condition as Dad.

Where’s the happily ever after? Where’s the perfection?

She stood before a crowd of women, all listening intently to her story, and declared even though her life is not what she thought it would be, she knows it is all part of God’s plan. His restoration power is seen in her life.  She said she gets discouraged and even angry, but she knows God is with her.

Her life is a beautiful example of God’s redemption and restoration.

The Illusion of Perfection

As she spoke, I couldn’t help but look around the room and see all of these women with their own struggles, secrets, pains, shame and tragedies hiding behind pretty faces and beautiful clothes.

After the program closed, I found her and thanked her for sharing her story.  I know there were women in the audience who needed to hear her and be encouraged.  More of us need to share our stories.  More of us need to stand up and say we’re not perfect, our past was hell, but God!

Perfection is an illusion we create in our closets and in front of our mirrors.  Perfection is the words we rehearse in our heads before we head out the door.  Perfection is a perfectly crafted blog post or Facebook update that shows only the best of our lives.

Here’s the truth:

The prerequisite of perfection before relevance is a requirement of man, not God.

Perfection is not a requirement to be used by God.

We want perfect lives, but perfect lives are no more required than they are guaranteed.  Nowhere does it say our lives on this Earth will be easy.  That does not mean we aren’t supposed to be used by God.  Look through the Bible; what perfect people were used by God?


Okay, one.  Jesus was perfect because He was God. Otherwise, not one person in scripture was perfect.

What’s Your Story?

We all have a testimony.  All things considered, we probably have several testimonies of God’s faithfulness, grace, love, mercy, kindness, redemption, and restoration. One of my biggest messes has become a message. When I wrote Restoring the Lost Petal is was to share my ugly story so other women could be freed from their chains. What’s your mess?

Your story needs to be told.

You don't need to be perfect to impact a life!

Somewhere around you, another sister in Christ is struggling with the same issue you’ve overcome or are working to overcome.  We don’t need to be perfect or have it all figured out to be a light in someone else’s life.  Honesty and authenticity with a willing, submitted heart are all God requires of you.

Your messy life is not an excuse not to share. It’s a brilliant example of a life redeemed and restored by Christ.

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  1. I love that the word perfect in Christ translates, complete. We ARE complete even with our messes. Which of course, he will walk us through too! Just keep on walkin. 🙂 Linda

  2. Wow! This was an awesome blog post! 🙂 Thanks for sharing! It’s always encouraging to see Christs reflection through someone else. Keep up the good work for the glory of God!

  3. “You don’t need to be perfect to be a light in someone elses life.” Love this so much! I have recently learned that when we are willing to be honest about our struggles that God can use us because others can relate to us, because who can relate to perfection? 🙂 Just found you through


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